Are you in search for some good friends? We were not created to do life alone, for as iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpen another (Proverbs 27:17 NIV). We all need people around us to grow together in our relationships with Christ. Here are some things to consider as you seek out potential a potential BFF.
1. Pray for a Good Friend – There is no better way than to start off your journey of finding good friends than to pray for them. When we desire friendships that will help us grow closer to Christ, our Father hears our prayers and will be faithful to answer us. Have you asked God for a good friend lately?
2. Start Serving – A totally fun way to meet friends is to get involved in your local church. It takes more than just attending every week. You will need to step outside of the chair and start serving for the glory of God. Anytime this happens, you’ll certainly find fun people to not only attend with but to serve with.
3. Join a Group – Just like serving at your church, joining a small group makes life much easier for you to build relationships with other believers. These are environments where you will have the freedom to take off the mask, to sharpen one another, and to do life together. Don’t be afraid to join a group, you’ll be glad you did!
4. Strengthen the Connections – After meeting those you serve and attend groups with, I encourage you to be brave and invite one or two of those women to have coffee or lunch. One-on-one allows you to go even deeper and learn more about each other. While one can mingle and get to know more people by getting involved, we grow closer to others the more we learn about them.
5. Be Intentional, not Forceful –One of my closest friends in this season of life has been around for a year or more now. In the beginning, we were not able to connect right away due to things going on in our own lives. Now, we have established a strong friendship. If there is someone you really want to connect with, but things just aren’t happening don’t feel the pressure to force the relationship.
6. Know what you Need – Many friendships typically happen organically and without force. However, there are some friendships that require more intentionality, especially when it comes to finding friends who are believers. I find that when I walk into friendships, it’s better for me to know what I am looking for. There are some people who really just want someone they can talk to, others just want someone to go out and explore the town together. If you don’t really know what it is you’re looking for in a friend, then you won’t truly know when you’ve found one. Take a few minutes and really ask yourself what you’d like to a friend.
7. Be the friend that you desire to Have – No one likes a one-sided friendship. Often times we get focused on finding a friend to make us feel better, but how often do we approach others with what we have to offer to them as a friend. Maybe the best friend of your future is waiting for you to approach her. While we should know what we need, the same is true for knowing what we can bring to others.
8. Don’t get discouraged – The connection and relationships you desire may not come right away. Always know that there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24). You’re not alone, so in this time of waiting, draw closer to God and know that He can and will meet your needs.
9. Participate in other Ministry Events – Maybe the friend of your future doesn’t attend your small group or serve on the same team as you. When you hear of a local event happening, don’t be afraid to check it out. You have no idea who you’ll sit by or connect with when you get there. Go for it!
10. Know the purpose in Friendship – Finally, always know that God is purposeful. We should walk into friendships, mentorships, or any other relationships with a purpose in mind. Your friendships could be to sharpen one another, to be a listening ear, offer encouragement during someone’s toughest season of life, maybe they are there to walk with you through yours. Just know the purpose of your relationships.
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