I remember telling my friend, “What am I going to do? I want to stay at home with my children but we need more income for this to happen. I’ll figure it out and solve this problem.” I figured it out alright…in my own strength…and wasted a lot of money and time.

Here’s my story. When I started having children, I desperately wanted to stay home so I left my teaching job and started a day care in my home to supplement our income. It was hard work and not something I was wired for.  I noticed several of the women I was sitting for were nurses. They worked part-time or on the weekends. So, I got it in my head that if I became a nurse I could work part-time and stay at home with my children. Mind you, I had no desire to be a nurse but I did have a desire to stay home with my children.

I enrolled in our local college, completed my pre-requisites and was accepted into the School of Nursing. That took me 9 months and several hundreds of dollars. And wouldn’t you know, by the end of that year, my husband interviewed for a new job in another state, got the job, and the salary tripled his income. So, I didn’t end up going to nursing school. Instead we packed up our home and relocated. I ended up wasting money and time.

My story reminds me of Sarah in Genesis 16: “Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had not been able to bear children for him. But she had an Egyptian servant named Hagar. So Sarai said to Abram, ‘The Lord has prevented me from having children. Go and sleep with my servant. Perhaps I can have children through her.’ And Abram agreed with Sarai’s proposal. So Sarai, Abram’s wife, took Hagar the Egyptian servant and gave her to Abram as a wife.”  Earlier, God promised Sarai and Abram that they would conceive a child, but Sarai became impatient and took it upon herself to solve the problem of her infertility and gave Hagar to Abram so Hagar would conceive a child. If only she had waited. If only I had waited.

Proverbs 3:5-6 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight.”


If you are facing a problem try the following steps, and I guarantee you won’t make the same mistake I did.

  • Pray and pray some more.
  • Seek wise counsel.
  • Trust in the Lord.
  • Stand on His promises of His provision, and BE PATIENT. The immediate solution isn’t always the best one!
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Julia Mateer

Laughing hard with friends, strong black tea, quiet moments with her husband, are some of Julia's favorite things. One of her greatest joys is having authentic conversations with women about relationships, parenting, and leadership.

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