Satisfied in your Singleness
Let me start by saying, if you are married…KEEP READING. There is much in this post that I hope will give you new ways to encourage and pour into the hearts of your children and single people in your life.
While I come from a divorced family, I am so grateful that God has preserved a healthy view and honor in my heart for marriage. I recognize that for many people, it can be difficult to see the point when you might not have witnessed a healthy marriage relationship. I truly believe that marriage is the absolute most beautiful human relationship that depicts Jesus’ very relationship to the church – His Bride. In my singleness, God has taught me some very important lessons about myself, relationships, and character that I just want to share with you in this season.
Perfection – Ephesians 5:25-27
The greatest lesson that anyone, single or married, should learn is that Christ is the only one who can truly complete us. We’ve all heard it said, “He completes me.” Well, I desperately need you to understand that there is no human being on this earth who can complete the innermost depths of your soul as Jesus came to do. If you are on the search for someone to “complete” you, look no further. Jesus is the only One who can and desires to be that for you. If the plan for your life is to be married, then you want to walk into that relationship made whole by the power of God constantly at work inside of you. Otherwise, you will find yourself falling short every time you meet someone new. He is the One who will never need or want a break from you, will never stop knowing the exact words you need to hear, and will never stop loving and accepting you unconditionally. Man is imperfect and will miss the mark, but the perfect one Jesus will always be there to fulfill your every desire. Please rest in that, sister, and know that you are already complete when you have Christ.
Purpose – Proverbs 19:21
In every relationship, friendship, or mentorship, you should seek God for His clarity and purpose. Why did God connect you with that particular friend? Why does he want you to accept that guy’s offer to go on a date? If you cannot clearly identify what is the purpose of your connection to any person, then I encourage you to take a step back and take a serious look at your life. Simply put, God is a God of purpose. Every marriage He put together from Hosea’s to Ruth’s to Esther’s was for a reason much bigger than the “I Do”. It was God’s intention for every marriage to in some way embody His character and bring life to those around it. If you are not yet married, I encourage you to be constantly seeking what it is God wants out of your connection to any potential person who will absorb the commodity of time from your life. God’s clear purpose for your relationships is what you will need so you will have something to hold on to during the rough seasons. If you don’t have something bigger than yourself to hold on to when it comes to your relationships, then you will find it easy to walk away and give up.
Patience – James 1:4
Of course, this is the one that I have to mention, but none of us really want to hear. You have to know that your choice to rush things could potentially destroy the future that lies ahead. While God will redeem any mistake we make, you have to know that waiting on God will benefit you most. What I have learned through many lessons is that if we try to step ahead of God, we will find ourselves wandering and needing Him to place us back on the right track. God is for you and He knows exactly what you need and when, trust Him and do not give up. I am so grateful for the amazing things God has done in my heart as preparation to either one day commit my life to serving and respecting a man who is significant and special in my life or something else. Either way, I choose His will for my life and not my own. Make the intentional choice to wait, so that you will be exactly where God wants you to be.
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